What to do when your leader does something wrong

To say that this is my first post in a while would be an understatement. I created this space over six years ago, but it’s been well over three since I’ve don’t anything with it. So an introduction is definitely in order.

Hi, I’m David. Welcome to my space 🙂

I’m 26, live in Florida, and have 2 rescue dogs.

I’m a Christ follower, ginger, and youth pastor aspirer.

Now onto what I want to say:

I’ve had several people that I report to, that I am responsible to, that I am in the charge of. And unfortunately, sometimes those people that are over me fail. They make mistakes. They need to be forgiven. Now I know that you’re reading this and thinking “Well dang, you have NO IDEA what happened or what happened to me.” And I would have to agree, I don’t know where you are at or your situation. I don’t know what you went through, or what the circumstances are. But what I do know is this: if you live life for any length of time, you are going to have people over you, or that you look up to, fall. And it’s hard, but there are three things that I have learned.

  1. Pray.

As a Christ follower, my first response should be to pray. Pray for healing, pray for those involved, pray for those who it effects and will be affected.

  1. Plan.

Think before you speak, and know before you go. If you are in a position of leadership and have to deal with the situation, prepare what you are going to say and how you will respond. Exploding and flying off the handle are rarely, if ever, warranted. But in all seriousness, this is something that I struggle with: thinking before speaking. Sometimes in close quarters you can simply converse with someone in a gut-level way. But when a leader has fallen, and you’re called to help, you need to be ready.

  1. Plop.

Once it has been dealt with, drop it. Yes, there are consequences for one’s actions. Yes, there is trust that has to be rebuilt. But rehashing and bringing the offence up at every possible turn isn’t going to help them, and it certainly will not help you. When we try to punish someone over and over again in our minds, it does nothing to them but everything to us.

This isn’t a perfect list, and it won’t work for everyone, but it’s something that’s helped me. And I hope it helps you.

Grace and peace,

David